It's going to be a little psychological, philosophical theory talk *wink*
One says we should not judge a book by its cover.
True to that. But not with people-watching. It tells so many things; from the person's expressions, the way they talk, their expression, how they move and even walk can define a person.
Also, I remember that from one day, while sitting in the Economics class, our lecturer was going droning on and on about women and shoes. At one point he said, "When they bought the shoes, they'll come and ask you if it looks nice. They want assurance that they made the right choice."
I can never forget this. Sometimes, some people just want to seek approval.
From who, you ask? It can be anyone.
Let's take myself for example. I can just pass the exam, like, graze through it. But I myself will never approve of it, so I don't do it. I can not attend classes, but again, I don't approve to that, hence I will not do it.
Things are simple when it's just yourself, because YOU know what YOU want. But what if it is to seek approval from someone else?
How far do you have to sacrifice yourself to meet that achievement? Moreover, is this even necessary in the first place?
Easy examples are parents. It's a wonder how many kids nowadays are doing what the parents want, not what they intended. But it's even more of a wonder how many kids are struggling to meet their parents' expectations in whatever they're set to do. Sad, isn't it?
But sometimes, people seek approval only to want to blame it all on them later. When we go shopping, I always ask my sister which one she prefers. I know that if people ever say anything about it, I can just say "My sister chose it, not me. I'm just the one paying." Rest assured I also credit her if I get good remarks. Hahaa.
Anyway, these are trivial matters.
Today, I went to a dinner for the purposes of meeting new people. Prior to that, I have asked some friends to come along if they feel like it. Some said they'll think about it, some turned it down straightaway. But what actually threw me in a state of speechlessness is this one particular friend, who was obviously interested in going, but cannot make the decision himself. He asked me if I'm alright with going alone to that dinner, if I needed someone to come with me.
This theory in my mind never surfaces this much! It felt like jackpot when he uttered those words. I remember reading a manga just few days before that puts this theory in practice; how a guy didn't want to be the first to commit so that he can blame it on his partner for whatever that happens next.
It is evident that he wants me to say "Yes", then if the dinner isn't what he expected, he can just say "Nah, I went to accompany a friend", "A friend asked me to come along" or "My friend was going alone, so I just went along". Whatever. The point is, he don't want to be responsible for the decision that he made.
Well. No one can force another one. Even if I had said "OK" and invited him, he still can say "No". Nothing is stopping him.
I am not proving this is bad or wrong nor is it right or good. I'm simply pointing out this theory that I had in mind for a while now. And it excites me when it actually happened. LOL. I know I'm weird.
On the other hand, maybe I'm just being overexcited. Maybe he just cared whether or not I will get lonely. Heh!
Anyway, throughout the dinner, I also notice people who tries REALLY hard, that it makes me laugh! I know it's a social and people are being friendly but.. Hahaa. I don't know. Something is wrong with me. I know not of any reason why anyone should get offended by this analogy- if anyone ever read this, that is- because these are clearly all in my head.
Right! I shall sign off here.
Till the next theory pops up in reality then~!
Ja, mata.